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To give up resentment, and claim to retribution for a loss or insult.
Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. When you forgive, it is you that receives the blessing. Practice by saying: “I forgive you world, and all people, for everything harmful I believe you have done to me.” Forgiveness releases the emotions of fear, anger, hate, and guilt we build up in our relationships with others. It allows us the put the hurt behind and go bravely into the future. The person who most deserves your forgiveness is yourself. Forgive yourself frequently for all those things you believe you screwed up. Say: “I forgive myself, I accept myself, I love myself.” Say it often.
Forgiveness is closure. It releases past hurts, and anger to make way for a new beginning free of stress. Do not hold anger at anyone or anything. Doing so will only hurt you, while doing no harm whatsoever to the object of your anger. Anger binds you to the cause of your anger, and holds you in the past, reliving the incident over and over. Anger is like battery acid, it eats away at the object holding it. Free yourself from the past now by forgiving. It is wise to forgive quickly, so you can move on to other experiences. There is nothing that can’t be forgiven. It doesn’t matter how unfair or terrible you have been treated, forgiveness is your release, it does not condone or pardon the harm done to you. No one gets away with anything in life. The rule “you will reap whatsoever you sow” is aways in effect. Let God handle it, forgive and get on with your life.
Self forgiveness is as important as forgiving others. You need to forgive yourself for all the mistakes you may have made. There is nothing that can’t be forgiven. Remember God’s love is greater than any mistake you have made or will make. Learn and move on.
A lady wrote me to say her life was ruined by her dentist who molested her while she was being treated. When I asked her to forgive the dentist she became angry at me adding to her pain. She had been suffering for three years trying to “get back” at the dentist who harmed her. Three years she didn’t have to waste, if she could have forgiven. Forgiveness would not have made the hurt any less real, nor would it have condoned the incident. But it would have released her from the hurt, and given her three years of life back.
A most profound forgiveness was shown in Georgetown, PA. by the Amish community. A gunman had killed five of their children while they were attending school before killing himself. The Amish community not only forgave the killings, but dozens of Amish neighbors came out to mourn the gunman at his funeral. Such expression of God’s love is seldom seen. It brought tears to my old eyes in reading about it.
here are many elements one can use in order to achieve spiritual growth. I am going to discuss the various elements, and their importance. Spiritual and/or emotional growth is beneficial to everyone. Makes no difference whether you are a spiritual person or not. It is a process of gaining emotional maturity in order to live a better and more fulfilled life in the physical world.
The names of these elements are love, forgiveness, non-judging, integrity, and service. They may be divided into more, or condensed to fewer, but I will discuss them as they are shown.
Love is the most important of all. Learning to love yourself and others is the purpose of life. It makes everything else meaningful. The best way to do this is though affirmations. It makes no difference what your past was, or how much trouble you have experienced. The only place you can live is in the present now. Start with the understanding that you will make mistakes and accept yourself as you are right now. Listen to yourself, what you say, and how it affects others. Was what you said loving, and kind. Think about how you can improve your thoughts, words, and feelings about others. Learn to accept others, mistakes and all. No person living in this world will make the right decision everytime. As you become less critical of others you will become less critical of yourself.
Do affirmations on a regular basis daily. while it may seem boring, it is the best tool anyone has to change old habits and form new ones. It is the process of replacing old thoughts with new positive ones, and it does work over time. There is a section on affirmations on this site, but don’t feel limited by them. You can search the internet for more.
Here below is a good definition of what love really is, it will teach you what real unconditional love is about.
“Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude. Love doesn’t demand its own way. It’s not irritable or touchy. It doesn’t hold grudges and will not notice when others do it wrong. It’s never glad about injustice, but rejoices in truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends”. — Saint Paul.
In further writings on spiritual growth I will discuss the other elements one at a time.
Forgiveness is for the forgiver and not the forgivee. Many times have I heard people say: “I will never forgive him/her for what they did to me.” Holding back forgiveness is to hold the anger, hate and guilt of the past event. You can not afford the pain of withholding forgiveness. In the spirit world, strong emotions tie people together. Strong love will keep two persons together and enjoying similiar experiences forever. They may come back into the physical together many times. Strong hate will do the same thing. It will tie you to the hated person until the hate is resolved.Forgiveness cleans the slate of negative emotions and allows a new start. If you forgive someone and they say: “I don’t accept your forgiveness.” Then know that, if you have been sincere, you have done all you can. Shake the dust off your feet and walk on.
God has no need to forgive, since He never condemns or judges. But God can help you to learn to forgive. Pray for the knowledge of how to forgive everyone and everything that bothers you, He will answer your prayer.
God does not punish anyone for anything. But man, in fear and ignorance, believes strongly in punishment. And because man believes in punishment so intensely, man brings punishment to himself.
In my NDE, I learned from God that: “Man punishes himself, and not only does he punish himself, but he chooses the form that punishment will take.” Now, is punishment necessary: of course not. If man chose Love in everything he did, punishment would disappear.
Every day use the affirmation above: “I forgive you world, for all the wrongs, that I believe you have done to me.” Then forgive individually each and every person you may be having problems with. Release the past daily and walk into the future in freedom.
