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(For an explanation of this catagory, and the letters posted here, go to the first post in this catagory).
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Thanks for the excellent videos on suicide. I’m a psychologist, I did lose one client to suicide. It was horrifying, all those attempts she made, all those calls at all hours, all that agony. Her life was pain. Period.
I felt incompetent and inept, which I surely was. I know you cannot stop someone who is DETERMINED to kill him/herself, but if you are a therapist, you hope you can, oh, I don’t know. I guess it’s a fantasy of power, keeping someone from suicide.
Her suicide was 3 years ago, if I correctly recall, after I quit seeing her, and tried to refer her to someone more experienced. I was an intern and wasn’t even a doctor yet. As I gained my understanding of how little I could do, I felt more and more helpless. And yes, frustrated. I had SUCH a passion to help this lovely, intelligent, good-hearted young woman. I believed I could help her, when many before me had failed. Finally, my supervisor told me I had to refer her to someone else. It was painful and a relief. And THAT made me feel guilty.
In fact, I will never stop feeling guilty about it. I go through periods where I think about her and think, if only I had ______. I had told her about NDEs and how people say if you have a successful suicide, you have to go back and finish your life. She said she believed this because of her religion.
I’m rambling. I apologize. I do wish to tell you that your videos about suicide were helpful to me. I look forward to my own death, I have a selfish need to see her again and learn from her experience.
(For an explanation of this catagory, and the letters posted here, go to the first post in this catagory).
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Hi,
I was just thinking how in our physical world, so many are afraid of spirituality. As is often the case, many of the NDErs are often hesitant in sharing their NDEs for fear of being labeled crazy and definitely not understood. Thus even though their messages and their experiences are so profound, it often takes years before their story is ever told.
Of course, perhaps it took them awhile to understand the whole experience, to even make sense of it, and I do notice that since science, awareness, NDE studies and medical intervention is better now, there are newer accounts told sooner rather than years later.
Fortunately, the experiences are so clear and don’t change, so at least the details are clear. Yet, how much more we could all have benefited if people as a whole were not so fearful of expressing their spirituality, thus allowing those who have wonderful NDE messages to share, feel more comfortable to share them?
I have often tried to bring out NDE stories from others I know have had them, and they just will not speak of it. To me, it is a beautiful jewel to be shown to whoever is interested, or even not, as we never know when someone may benefit later. I truly believe these are gifts to us all. NDErs are today’s messengers of hope, meant to bring loving change, and purpose to us all, particularly the experiencer.
But I do understand cuz when I start to speak of spirituality to people in any form, they start being uncomfortable. Sadly, it is all the superficial things that many want to hear, not the stuff that truly matters.
So as we have come a long ways, and there are many NDErs now, I applaud them all for their courage to share when they do, and I thank them all for the gifts within their message. It is not an easy task they are here to do, but every share counts, and does make a difference, somehow.
So I ask everyone, if you have had a NDE, please dont be afraid to speak of it, to any who will hear as it just might be the thing they need to hear, but do not know just yet. It is the seed that will blossom, but whether or not you see its bloom, does not matter, for the one that hears, that bloom can make all the difference in their life’s outlook. Your share is a gift of LOVE.
(For an explanation of this catagory, and the letters posted here, go to the first post in this catagory).
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I was comatose for 6 months and was told that I died twice.
My family was making funeral arrangements…
I felt at ease, a peaceful feeling–like I didn’t want to wake up.
There was a lighness, but something I couldn’t grasp. “It” kept calling my name.
I was very at ease (or drugged up, as the case may be) and I once saw the light that said “come to me”…
I was so drugged, so drugged up, I really can’t recall.
The coma came as a result of alcohol poisoning…
My potassium and sodium levels fell so low that
I had to be life-flighted to Hospital.
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(For an explanation of this catagory, and the letters posted here, go to the first post in this catagory).
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Thank you for your kindness. I’m very science-oriented — I love science. The thing that these NDE skeptics don’t understand is that the credible, CONCRETE evidence is right there — right in front of them. I’m baffled by these folks. Truly.
I have a Ph.D. and was quite focused on neuropsychology. Two things I absolutely know — anoxia does not have the power to change a person profoundly — for the rest of their lives. It only has the power to damage their brains! To argue that anoxia produces this experience is ridiculous, and has no scientific validity.
The other thing is that when a person is clinically dead, there is NO WAY they can have the perspective of looking down on the scene, recalling discussion, activities, instruments, etc., and see what is going on with family members in other locations, etc. How on earth do those folks wish to explain that?
I’m now a professor. I don’t do clinical work any longer, other than helping out individuals on a voluntary basis as they occasionally come to me. My students know I am rock-solid science-based. And I make it clear I am not qualified to teach theology. Then I tell them about NDEs and the solid evidence that these experiences are REAL. I tell them there is no way we can explain NDEs as brain functioning, brain failure, response to medication, etc.
And you know what? I don’t really care what people think. I know they are real — they will learn about this eventually. And I know I’ll have that experience — maybe tomorrow — maybe when I’m 101. Who knows? But knowing about these wonderful experiences is so thrilling and comforting. Strange juxtaposition, but I know you understand. I tell my students about them to give them hope and comfort, to illustrate some of the limits of skepticism, and to encourage them to be open minded. And you know what? Once in a while, one of them has had such an experience. Lovely!
I hope I am doing something good. I hope I am helping people to be the best THEM they can be. I hope I am motivating and encouraging and inspiring them. If I can do that, I will feel my life was well spent.
Peace and love to you — thank you for your kindness. You’re doing some great things.
