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I watched your videos on youtube. Saw you’ve posted another video in June about our society. You talked about the fact that so many young people seem to get depressed or even commit suicide. You say that these people could be helped by knowing about their spiritual nature. I fully agree with you. In general I think our world suffers from what you might call demystification, we think everything is known, and that everything can be technically or evolutionary explained. The spiritual is ruled out. But there’s another important problem about our world which I think is directly related to this. By all the information we get through all the media the society we live in seems to be so big, that we as individual human beings seem to have little or no significance. We’re more or less ‘told’ by all these images in the media that if you want to mean something in this big machine the world has become, you must meet impossible demands. You must be a superstar, a genius, a hero, rich, famous, etc. If individual people feel meaningless and insignificant, they will regard other individuals as equally insignificant and treat them as such. Hence the violence, the shooting etc.
For an adolescent growing up and only just discovering him or herself, it is very scaring and depressing to know that they’re expected to live in a world like that. That’s an important part of the problem I think. I’ve felt the same and still do sometimes, even though I am over 40. The world has become more individualistic, and yet the individual seems to have lost its significance. And it’s very sad of course that young people have to find their way in a world like that. And you’re right, they and we all need a deep feeling of spiritual belonging to cure ourselves and the world. And I I think we can will cure ourselves and the world, in spite of everything.
The following quote is from “Emmanuel’s Book II, The Choice for Love,” compiled by Pat Rodegast and Judith Stanton.
There is also a Book I and a Book III. I like this one the best, but all are excellent. Emmanuel handles the tough questions about life in a loving and instructive way. This is the type of book that you read again and again.
I want to remind you that those who commit suicide recognize immediately the futility of what they believed was the final act of self-destruction and escape. They gather quickly all the details of what happened. Then the wisdom and love that is there instucts, directs, and sends them back to the planet.
The longing for death can, when it comes from remembering, be a voice from Home. When it comes from a desire to escape then I’m afraid it’s only that.
(For an explanation of this catagory, and the letters posted here, go to the first post in this catagory).
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Thanks for the excellent videos on suicide. I’m a psychologist, I did lose one client to suicide. It was horrifying, all those attempts she made, all those calls at all hours, all that agony. Her life was pain. Period.
I felt incompetent and inept, which I surely was. I know you cannot stop someone who is DETERMINED to kill him/herself, but if you are a therapist, you hope you can, oh, I don’t know. I guess it’s a fantasy of power, keeping someone from suicide.
Her suicide was 3 years ago, if I correctly recall, after I quit seeing her, and tried to refer her to someone more experienced. I was an intern and wasn’t even a doctor yet. As I gained my understanding of how little I could do, I felt more and more helpless. And yes, frustrated. I had SUCH a passion to help this lovely, intelligent, good-hearted young woman. I believed I could help her, when many before me had failed. Finally, my supervisor told me I had to refer her to someone else. It was painful and a relief. And THAT made me feel guilty.
In fact, I will never stop feeling guilty about it. I go through periods where I think about her and think, if only I had ______. I had told her about NDEs and how people say if you have a successful suicide, you have to go back and finish your life. She said she believed this because of her religion.
I’m rambling. I apologize. I do wish to tell you that your videos about suicide were helpful to me. I look forward to my own death, I have a selfish need to see her again and learn from her experience.
t’s hard to find someone that admits they are afraid of death. It’s even harder to find someone admitting they are afraid of life. But worry, anxiety, depression, and suicides are becoming all to common events in our society.
George Lucas, creator of Star Wars, is a spiritual person, he used his spiritual knowledge to create the “Force.” The Jedi knight could not possess any trace of fear. Fear would lead to the dark side. Lucas has Yoda saying: “fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and hate leads to suffering.” This saying is spiritually correct.
Only a new-born child is free of fear. As we grow up we learn to fear. We learn to fear by “catching” the emotion from our parents and peers, as well as being taught to fear directly in the acculturation process as we reach adulthood.
Fear is the source of all negative emotions. It is not essential for us to fear anything in our universe, fear is a learned behavior. As a learned behavior it can be managed, coped with, and/or discarded.
Great fear can cause one to “freeze” both physically and/or mentally in any emergency situation, and great fear can also lead to mental disturbances.
When I was nine, the soldiers began returning from WWII. Many of them were adversely affected by the war. They couldn’t handle loud noises, and some came back “shell shocked,” a term used, at that time, for a mental disorder caused by the extreme stress and fear of war.
Other returning veterans less affected by the fighting still needed time to merge back into civilian habits. I was walking downtown on my way to a movie, when an car backfired on the street beside me. An ex-serviceman walking in front of me threw himself face down on the concrete sidewalk. I know that had to hurt. He then looked around sheepishly, and got up muttering, “Damn, I did it again.”
Still other vets seemed untouched by the action of war. Down the street from me lived a former Ranger that us kids loved to play ball with. He was a veteran of Guadalcanal and other fierce battles of the war. My mother didn’t want us kids to play with him for fear he might hurt us. However, he never was anything but fun for us kids. He played ball, and hide and seek with us. He was so strong, Once I saw him grab a rain spout and swing himself upon the roof of his house, run across it and jump to the ground on the other side. He was not reluctant to talk about the war either. Among other wounds, He had been shot through the mouth, in one cheek and out the other. He laughed saying, “If I had kept my mouth open I wouldn’t have lost my teeth.” He seemed totally unaffected by the war, remaining warm and loving, I hated it when he moved to a better neighborhood. As I got older I learned he was a deeply spiritual person.
Fear does not keep you safe. Knowledge of the world keeps your safe. You don’t stick your hand into a fire because you know you will get burned. Spiders, snakes, demons, and other “scary” things lose their frightfulness when understood. You can lessen and alleviate many fears by simply reading, learning, and understanding them.
Now, there are times when one feels jittery, anxious, and fearful, where there appears to be no recognizable cause for the emotion. For lack of a better name, I call this “free-floating fear.” I know there is a reason for everything, but the “reason” for these f-f fears may be buried in the past, come from multiple sources, or just impossible to determine. It is these f-f fears and their concomitant affect upon us that cause most of the trouble in the world.
These fears cause us to be afraid of strangers, authority, the future, our own ability, and a host of other things that keep us from enjoying life as well as we could. We are held back by these free-floating fears not knowing we are capable of defeating them, and worthy of having the desirable things in life others are enjoying everyday.
If you are one that sometimes feel anxious, jittery, inadequate, unworthy, unsuccessful, unintelligent, with no self-confidence, and/or don’t like yourself very much, then you may be troubled with free-floating fear.
Since the cause of this fear can’t be precisely determined, the remedy has to be broad to cover many possibilities. A shotgun approach. That means something that will address all kinds of fear, and that something is affirmations. With affirmations you will be replacing negative thoughts with positive ones through daily practice.
I have seen many people helped by doing affirmations on a regular basis. If you decide to try affirmations you can find them here.
I hope you do try them. They have been helping people overcome fear ever since they were invented.
Dr Emile Coue (1857 – 1926), was a French pharmacist who at the beginning of the last century opened a free clinic. He offered his clients an affirmation (or as he called it back then a “conscious autosuggestion”) in conjunction with their medical treatment.
Coue believed that dysfunctional thinking patterns could worsen an illness. The Coue method offered a very specific ritual as part of his mind/body belief. His clients were to repeat 20 times in the morning and 20 times in the evening the following affirmation:
“Every day in every way, I am getting better and better”
You could use this affirmation also, or in conjunction with the ones provided on this site. I wish you the best of everything.
