I used to wonder why I was me. Why wasn't I that rich guy? Why wasn't I smart? Why wasn't I attractive? Why? Why? Why? It took me 50 years to find out all those things were only my choice of thoughts. I hope it doesn't take you that long. It really matters very little what your friends, teachers, parents, etc. think or believe about you. Because you are you, it is your opinion that counts. You don't need the validation of others. But you do need the acceptance, love and validation of yourself.
Life is a series of linear events. A chain of choices about those events, leading to other events. Never ending cycles of pain and pleasure for learning and growth. When the sun shines, it shines on everyone. When it rains, it rains on all. Every single person will experience at some point during their lifetime: tragedy, failure, depression and hopelessness. They will also experience: joy, happiness, success and unconditional love. We live in a world of duality. There is a reason for itSome people master the rollercoaster ride life offers them, and some don't. Why? It is an easy question to answer. The successful ones believe in themselves and their ability to win. While the others feel overwhelmed by life's ambivalences. They do so because their fearful thoughts keep them frozen in indecision, unable to make progress, due to fear of failure. If they only knew that "they were not their thoughts" improvement would be certain.
The reasons for feeling negative about yourself are numerous. Growing up in a disfunctional family. The criticism of inexperienced teachers. Comparing yourself to, and competing with, others. Holding unrealistic expectations of performance and many more. The reasons don't matter, they're history. What matters is now. This present moment. What do you do now to change your life.
First. Realize that "you are not your thoughts." Your thoughts are under your control at all times. There are no exceptions to this. People do not make you angry; you allow yourself to become angry. People do not depress you; you depress yourself. Your emotions are controlled by you and you alone. Quit reacting to others in a knee-jerk fashion and start thinking.
Second. Get away from all the negative stuff you possible can. Don't watch or read the daily news. If something important happens, a friend will let you know. Don't go to negative movies, read negative books, etc. Stop eating and drinking things that have a negative effect on you -- booze, cigarettes, snuff, drugs, etc. Not easy, huh! Well, quit as many as you can now, the others will come later.
Third. Start working with positive things. Read self-help books, inspirational books, biographies of famous people, etc. Join a support group, make friends with positive people. Do affirmations and exercises with positive statements. Look over the method of help located at this site. Devote some time everyday to work with understanding yourself. If you don't help yourself, who will.
Whether you believe it or not -- you are eternal. Within you is a light and love so powerful, so beautiful, that it can not be described in human language. You can't fail. You will succeed. You are always safe and secure. Your Creator is proud of you and never loses faith in you. Don't lose faith in yourself.
Life's a Bitch.
Link to a Suicide NDE account.
The NDE Real Purpose and Meaning of Life.
If you believe life's so bad you're considering suicide.
