Question: How do Near Death Experiencers see the world after their experience?
Answer: I think the best way to do this, is to let them tell you. Below is a letter to a NDE support group by an experiencer. I think it is typical of the way experiencers feel about life after their NDE. If I should come across more letters, I will post them here.
We all win the Prize, the joy to be alive, the compassion for our fellow souls, the helping people, the lack of ego, the ability to learn more quickly than others the hard lessons this life throws at us, the willingness to try by whatever means necessary to be patient, tolerant, understanding, loving, forgiving and helpful.
Yes, we all win that prize, and I'd much rather be holding that prize in my heart, than holding any other there. We see it all around, the selfishness, the ego orientated, the cruel, the uncaring, the liars, the thiefs, the abusers, the murderers, finding it harder and harder to find decent people to communicate with. Then we find decent people and what we learn is they have been treated badly for what they are, plus we have all been treated badly by someone because of who we are, or what we stand for. But we are strong, and that is a thing to be attacked I suppose, because we live that life, we crave nothing, so we are not disappointed, we need nothing, so we are not dependant.
We lost our ignorance, Jesus said "forgive them lord for they know not what they do", about the people who jeered and threw stones, etc. at Him while He carried the cross. Now in our own lives, we see this ignorance daily, hurting people's feelings, is one that always catches my attention, and it doesn't matter if it's an adult hurting other adults feelings, or an adult hurting a child's feelings, or a spouse, or a friend, it's there.
We don't feel that need to hurt others, knowing what it feels like to be hurt ourselves, after NDE, the strength to see through others actions, down to their pain, helps us to understand a little why they hurt others, like some kind of defence system for their own suffering.
We are all alone, every single person in the world, alone with our own thoughts, alone with our own feelings, we are luckier than most, who are still dealing with ego and struggling to make any sense of it. Our solitary journey's, are criss crossed, mixed up, no direction, no solutions, just plodding along, learning here and there whenever we can, strengthening our character, giving us integrity.
We may be alone, but what we stand for is right, justice, fairness. Trying always to be non judgemental in our associations with others, even if they judge us, trying always to be fair, to lack prejudice against our fellow souls, who like us are alone too in their own journey of life.
It is so very hard, it will test us to our limits sometimes, but we must never give up hope that one day the world will be fairer for everyone, all of us doing our small part to ensure that happens.
Take Care, M.
When I had my NDE, and I woke up in the oxygen tent in the hospital, after being unconscious for weeks, my parents were sitting outside of it. I could see the worry on their faces, as they sat there holding hands. They hadn't noticed at first that I was awake and watching them, my throat was parched, my chest was sore, it hurt to breath, I felt very weak, could hardly move my arms or legs. Then my Dad noticed I was awake, he smiled his usual smile, he told my mum and she looked at me smiling too, their happiness to see me awake and aware at last.
Then they told the nurse who told the doctor, and soon everyone was bussling about the bed, checking this, that and the next thing, my parents faded a bit into the background as the professionals took over to check I was ok.
I knew my parents were still there, waiting, for the moment when they would be allowed over to talk to me, or just hold my hand. The doctors talked to them, and they were nodding and smiling, glancing at me every now and then, their relief still evident in their faces, I was going to be ok. I learned afterwards that I had been in there since the accident, 3 weeks of in and out of consciousness, and they had came every day, just to sit there, holding hands, worried, hopeful and unsure.
I remember my own thoughts that day, how glad I was to be back, eager and enthused to get started on this new life, with my new found perspective, duly gained in NDE, the joy inside my heart to have been given this chance to come back and live my life.
Back then I had that enthusiasm for life, I wanted everything that I was ever to experience to be approached with this enthusiasm, so I could learn lessons from them all, good or bad, it didn't matter much, it was my life and I was going to live it, the best way I could, without complaining, couldn't complain after choosing to come back.
Tempered by time and setbacks, the enthusiasm has wained, but if I sit for long enough and remember, I can still feel the joy inside, my complete awe to be here again, living the life that I thought when I died I wouldn't get the chance to live. To discover, explore, learn, help and be helped, feel, think and rationalise, reason and look deeper than ever before to the mysteries of life.
I remember to be grateful for the life I live, no matter what adversity will bring to me, what setbacks or obstacles I meet along the way, to learn from it, anything I can learn. I'm mindful to stay compassionate to my fellow souls, and stay compassionate with myself, we are all travelling the path to greater knowledge, we will make mistakes along the way, but at least we'll learn in the process.
How to get enthusiasm back? I don't know, I guess we havn't found it yet, but something somewhere will happen and then our enthusiasm will return, we will be eager and willing once again to get started, to help in any way we can and we will have new found enthusiasm for the challenge ahead.
...Believe in your heart that something wonderful is about to happen.
...Love your life.
...Believe in your own powers, and your own potential, and in your own innate goodness.
...Wake every morning with the awe of just being alive.
...Discover each day the magnificent, awesome beauty in the world.
...Explore and embrace life in yourself and in everyone you see each day.
...Reach within to find your own specialness.
...Amaze yourself and rouse those around you to the potential of each new day.
...Don't be afraid to admit that you are less than perfect; this is the essence of your humanity.
...Let those who love you help you.
...Trust enough to be able to take.
...Look with hope to the horizon of today, for today is all we truly have.
...Live this day well.
...Let a little sun out as well as in.
...Create your own rainbows.
...Be open to all your possibilities; all possibilities and Miracles.
...Always believe in Miracles.
-- Author Unknown
There is great gain in godliness with contentment; for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. (1 Timothy 6:6-7)
Take Care, M.